Importance of self-love or self-compassion
Lately I’ve been struggling to have the same level of compassion I’ve for people in my life in comparison to myself. I think it comes from a place of not taking care of your own needs in comparison to others in your life. This has always been a life long struggle to be there for others and not be there for myself. I’ve never learned to worry about my own needs and always think I need to have a lot more compassion or mere kindness towards my own people. But I would be lying if I said that I don’t feel the brunt of it now and in some ways those positive emotions become negative which in very weird way is directed towards myself. I never understood that and in my head I’m my harshest critique so because of that I probably never need an enemy to do that job for me.
I always preach compassion or love for yourself when I talk to my patients but lately that sort of assurance makes me sad towards myself as I don’t seem to use that approach for myself. I think when you’re always present for others and emotionally available for everyone else but not yourself then that’s def an act of violence towards your existence. The more we get into the habit of neglecting our own needs the universe will find a way to forcefully show that to you regardless of if you’re ready or not. I think taking a step back and not being available for others 24/7 or not doing things that make you unhappy or even restless is just not worth any part of your time. You’ve to cultivate that love for yourself and it comes with giving yourself the time but most importantly valuing yourself enough that you make yourself a priority over others for a change. I think being aware is the first step but the most difficult is to actually finding a way to do something about it and maintaining that enough to cultivate a habit for your own well being.
Self-love comes with effort and patience but more importantly it comes with wanting to make that change where you make yourself a priority. It also comes with making the tough choices of letting go of certain habits and people that cause you to feel any other way. So dealing with those choices when you already are a complex being can be pretty overwhelming but knowing what awaits you at the end of this long journey is worth every single thing you go through.
