Musings that keep coming back..

There are times in your life when every new thing leads to self-doubt or criticism when it comes to you as to how you handle things. I always thought starting something new in your life is much more exciting than nerve wrecking but when you’re starting something new in every part of your life then it can get overwhelming very quickly. But it also boils down to how you perceive those feelings as well since that plays a huge role in how much this affects your peace of mind. The one thing that I’m trying to be better is when your body responds with anxiety to something new which can be indicating a deeper issue or a past trigger which hasn’t been resolved before. I would recommend paying very close attention to those moments as something within you is trying to tell you something which you need to work on in order to get past it. But don’t ignore those feelings and work on them slowly to find some sort of a resolution. I mean the only way out is through, right. It also doesn’t mean you’ve to abandon the ship in every facet of your life but it does serve as a warning against how your body is reacting to things. I’m a firm believer in things the way your body responds to something being close to your gut feeling or basically your intuition trying to warn you against something.

One way to not feel overwhelmed with these feelings is to communicate how you feel about to someone who can understand and provide reassurance. These feelings can become a part of a vicious cycle if you talk to someone who hasn’t gone through it or doesn’t understand you from that perspective. Its okay for people you expect to understand you not truly get what you’re going through but that doesn’t mean other people in your life won’t.

Another way is to make sure you’ve an outlet which helps you stay grounded like meditation, yoga, exercise of any kind, journaling, blogging, cooking and talking to your therapist if you’ve one. It’s very essential to have a part of your life where you can find solace no matter when you turn towards it. I do struggle with this one because when I’m worried or anxious about something I do focus a lot on that aspect and everything else becomes secondary. But at the end of the day we’re all a work in progress and we’ve to keep moving forward with the choices we’ve made. You keep working towards something till it gives you happiness as well as peacefulness. But the day it stops giving you either of those things and you clearly notice an imbalance plus feel miserable 24/7 then you know its time to make a change or a choice of choosing better for you.

But lastly, you’ve to practice self-compassion especially at times when you don’t feel it towards yourself. It’s one of the hardest thing if our entire dialogue to ourselves have been a little close to criticism which is unfortunate in itself but comes when that’s how you’ve always been. Be cognizant of those malignant patterns and work slowly towards changing them plus incorporating more self-love since you can’t expect people to understand if you’re unable to do so for yourself.